Monday, November 30, 2015

GOOD MORNING FRIENDS!
and

and it's also
the
very
last
day
NOVEMBER  2015


"Last Day of November"
Artist:  Sandra L. Strohschein

and
THANKS
to all who read Saturday's or Sunday's
KASIYH
blog post
especially those who commented:

DIANNE  COMISKEY

MEREDITH CHILSON

MARY  FULLER

MARCINE  DELO

JUDY  SERVEY

BARB STANTON McNINCH

DONNA  HOLMES

STEVE HARRIS

LYNN  MANNING

DOTTIE  GRAHAM

HEATHER  YANDA

LEE  ANN LAMBERT-MEEHAN

JOYCE  ARMSTRONG

VIRGINIA CUMPSTON COLE

Thank you VERY much!

   Yesterday was interesting.  We were at church early as MJ need to use the rectory office before the choir arrived, this gave GGC time to run through a few songs and to chat with our dear friend Heather Yanda just a smidgen. After that the choir arrived and we were off to the races, so to speak. As prepared as we thought we were for the First Sunday of Advent, we still weren't quite "ready" and of course that in and of itself was a sermon sans words.  Better yet, our semi unpreparedness tied in with Rev. Carol's homily, so all worked out just great.  Our God IS an awesome God !

   After the church service itself we went downstairs for the Episcopalian 8th sacrament: Coffee Hour.  Had a delightful time there.  Tad and Ruth Manske had brought the treats for the day and they were yummy indeed.  [ Tad and Ruth are also singers in SJC  (Saint John's Choir) so they're extra special to us.]

  When we left church we headed to Angelica, NY to visit Aunt Fran [Guinnip].  Hadn't been over to her house in ages.  We talk on the phone but never seem to get over there.  Auntie Fran turned 88 years seasoned on Saturday = yeah Aunt Fran !!!  She had called us Saturday evening to thank us for the beautiful floral arrangement we'd sent via HANNIGAN'S FLORIST here in Belmont [thanks Don & Kim ] and we had talked 90 plus minutes but we still had lots of talkin' left to do Sunday afternoon.  MJ and GGC  LOVE  talking to our more seasoned relatives and friends,,,oh the insight they have PLUS the memories might be fading just a bit but usually they have great stories of "back in the day".  With Auntie Fran being MJ's Mom's sister  [Remember MJ's Mom passed away in 1969 after a ever so  l--o--n--g  battle with Leukemia ], she has SO MANY memories of Jim and Jody [MJ's Mom] and can literally transport us back in time.  Auntie Fran has stood by MJ and GGC for some thirty-seven years now and never, ever wavered in her support of us.  What a gal !

  We left Aunt Fran's and headed back to Belmont to Woodside Drive [Mary Jo and Jim's] and stopped in to see Dad Feldbauer as he is on his way this morning to Arizona to stay with Mark and Lorie for a while.  Had a nice visit there,,,,then,,,,,,,finally ,,,,,,, home.  [We had left here at 9:15am and returned about seven hours later at 4:15pm.]



    Yesterday reminded GGC of Sunday's as a kid.  After church we would come home for Sunday dinner [can still here that pressure cooker cooking the potato's] then the entire family was off to visit our Grandparent's or [rarely] some other relatives too.   By the time GGC was born [recall we are the youngest, that "well planned mistake" as my Dad told us,,,,UNTIL our Mom shared with us that that "mistake" was no such thing ,,, she knew what she was doing, even if Dad didn't realize it at the time,,,well for a LONG time thereafter actually.]  our Grandparents Shelley had both passed away, and our Grandfather Butts passed away shortly after GGC was born.   But we still had our Grandma Butts and Aunt Juanita to visit in West Clarksville, NY.  So we'd all pile in the car and off we'd go.  Always singing hymns to and fro.... Dad and Mom up front [and sometimes GGC when our sister Donna was still at home] and Marlene, Doug and GGC [most of the time] in back seat.   As we are writing this we can picture us on that winding road twixt Friendship and West Clarksville [ is that the Nile road or Nile's Hill Road ? ] singing our hearts out on the way to visit Grandma.  Did the tree's hear us in the summertime when the windows were down?  Did they look forward [or dread?] the "Shelley Vocal Band" they would hear every Sunday afternoon?  

 "Jesus is the joy of living, He's the King of Life to me;
Unto Him my all I'm giving, His forever more to be
I will do what He commands me, anywhere He leads I'll go;
Jesus is the joy of living, He's the greatest Friend I know!"
[ Words and Music by: Rev. A.H. Acley ]

or

" I've got a mansion, just over the hilltop,
In that bright land where we'll never grow old;
And some day yonder we will never more wander
But walk the streets that are purest gold,"
[Words and Music by: Ira Stanphill]

or

" Living He loved me; dying He saved me;
Buried he carried my sin far away:
Rising He justified freely forever:
One day He's coming,
Oh glorious day! "
[ By:  J. Wilbur Chapman and Charles H. Marsh ]

   We gave not a thought to "dynamics" and God Himself knows we had more than enough "vibrato" with that bumpy, winding road...we just sang and Sang and SANG, adding parts as we knew them or thought they should be.  Gosh what wonder-filled memories from a half-century ago or more.

Here's a couple of pics from that time span.

GGC's
Aunt Juanita on the left,
then our
Grandmother Butts and Grandpa Butts
[ This is in front of 94 Greenwich Street, Belmont, NY ~ not in West Clarksville ]




GGC's parents 
Ross and Inez Shelley
around the time we are writing about ,,,, or shortly before.




 Donna, GGC, Marlene and Doug
"The Back Seat Singers"



After we'd do our visiting, always being on our BEST behavior, we'd head on home to 94 Greenwich Street in Belmont,,,,singing, Singing, SINGING all the way home too.  And lest we forget, then there was evening church Service ,,, with what?  More singing !!!   Is it any wonder that music, especially this type of music, has ruled GGC's lifetime ?  


Kindly play this video as you read the remaining few lines.


" Precious memories, unseen angels
sent from somewhere to my soul,
How they linger, ever near me,
And the sacred past unfolds.

Precious memories, how they linger,
How they ever flood my soul,
In the stillness of the midnight,
Precious, sacred scenes unfold.

Precious father, loving mother,
Fly across the lonely years
And old home scenes of my childhood
In fond memories appear.

Precious memories, how they linger,
How they ever flood my soul,
In the stillness of the midnight,
Precious,,,, scared,,,,, scenes unfold."
[ By: Alan Jackson ]

 So many of the players in this walk down Memory Lane are gone now: All Grandparents, Mom, Dad, our two brothers [Doug and Dick] but oh, the precious memories.   When the tears become too heavy to bear we just remember that someday some great and glorious day,,, we will all sing together once again.   That "Shelley Vocal Band" will be heard once again,,,together,,,never, ever again to be parted.







KEEP  A  SONG
IN
YOUR  HEART!

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Saturday, November 28, 2015


GOOD  MORNING  FRIENDS!

and
THANKS
to those who read yesterday's
KASIYH
blog
(127)
especially those who commented:

MEREDITH  CHILSON

KATE FELDBAUER HANDY

MARY FULLER

JUDY  SERVEY

DOTTIE  GRAHAM

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TOMORROW
is the
First Sunday of Advent

GGC wonders if anyone truly carries on this Christian tradition.
We do here at 4998 Noble Street, it's a part of what makes us...US.
We're trying to recall when we began this tradition together, probably 1974 or 1975.
Advent really does tend slow us down 
a little as the Christmas rush begins.
It seems to center us too, on what this season should be about.
Let us know if you [will] have an Advent wreath out at your house.
If perhaps that's not the case, 
have you ever even heard of the season of Advent ?
No judgement here, just curious.



A few years ago
the G part of GGC
wrote a sermon
[ yes, you read that correctly ]
for the first Sunday of Advent.
It was something G wanted to do at the time
and then compare what he wrote 
to what he'd hear the next day at church.
Interesting,,,,VERY interesting indeed.

The one he heard in church the next day was,
um, well, hmmm, let's see, oh boy, be nice,,,,,
typical, that's a good [Christian] way to describe it,
typical.

The one that G had written
[which no one ever heard of course]
would not be described as typical.

Note:
Years ago, the young lady GGC helped raise
and whom they consider to be their daughter
[in ALL but the biological sense]
asked him a question
and prefaced it by saying:
"Answer with the first thoughts that come to your mind,
and answer quickly...no thinking about it."
{But one of the reasons we love Sarah so much, she has learned her lessons well.}
So GGC did:
Here's Sarah's question and the immediate answer from GGC:

"Looking back,
if you could have been anything in the world,
what would it be?"

Answer:
"A Preacher!
A Teacher!"

The first answer shocked even GGC somewhat.
Somewhat ,,, but not totally.
As a kid we used to LOVE to play church.
[No it was not for the collection plate!]
Faith was our family focus,
with Christ being the center of everything,
and 
the church there to help guide us.

At any rate,
it's not unusual for G to write a sermon hither and yon
and this one fact you should know:
We be a bit Pentecostal in our delivery.
[To ourselves only of course, but we can still dream.]
BORING
sermons
drive
us
BONKERS.

The
"Word of the Lord"
is meant to be
!ALIVE!

Instead most churches are no longer
"Hospitals for sinners"
but instead are
"museums for saints"
and
we
must
NOT
at any cost,
step on the sacred toes of the saints.
This is one of the reasons we
LOVE
the new 
Presiding Bishop
Michael B. Curry
of the
U.S. Episcopal Church.
He comes 
ALIVE
when he preaches.

ALIVE
we tell you!


And he inspires all those around him.

THAT'S
what we're talkin'  'bout.

AND
whilst we off on this tangent,
he does it
without
condemnation.

So
MANY
churches,
including some local ones for sure,
simply
MUST
have something to
HATE.

That's one of the reasons their numbers grow.
They give EVERYone
SOMEthing
to
HATE.

SOMEthing
[or someONE]
to feel
SUPERIOR
to.

Think about it.
REALLY
think about it.
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We'll wait.

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Had no idea this blog post was headed in this direction,
just goin' with it.

Is it any wonder that some folks are turned off by any
organized religion?

We know so many people who do not attend church,
perhaps are even atheists,
but they lead far better "Christian" lives
then some
Christian "Christians".

Folks who are in church every time the doors are open,
help run the church itself,
and
just can't wait to make you
just
like
them,
"washed in the Blood of the Lamb"
and then totally clothed in
SELF-RIGHTEOUSNESS.


What did Christ say was the greatest commandment?
TO LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD
with all your heart, all your mind and all your soul,
and the second is unto the first,
to
LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.

What if we ALL really and truly adhered to that?
[ Some YOU come pretty darned close ,,, we've seen it! ]


What A Wonderful
WORLD
it would be.


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Probably few people will bother reading this post
to it's conclusion,
we had no idea this would be the topic for the day.

But
we sure do feel better having written it.

As our Pastor,
Carol Stewart,
wrote to us recently:
" Share what blesses you by sharing it, Greg."



To
which
we
say:










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Friday, November 27, 2015

GOOD  MORNING  FRIENDS!


and
THANKS
to all who read yesterday's
KASIYH
blog post,
especially those who commented:

DONNA  HOLMES

CHERYL  STANTON

LYNN  MANNING

BARB STANTON McNINCH

MARY  FULLER

DEB  PRESUTTI

SUE  ROSS

DOTTIE  GRAHAM

LISA  JESKE

LAURIE  MEAD

STEVE  HARRIS

JUDY  SERVEY

CARLENE  HARDY

Thank you ALL for taking  moment out of your
THANKSGIVING  DAY  2015
to share a greeting or make a comment.
DEEPLY APPRECIATED!

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And lest we forget
HAPPY BIRTHDAY
to our sister-in-law
LORIE  WAITE-FELDBAUER
who
turns
29
years seasoned 
TODAY.
LOVE YOU SISTER!


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We had a
WONDERFUL  TIME
at our sister's house yesterday.
[ Kate Feldbauer Handy ]

The meal was
GREAT
to say the least.

Arrive home
STUFFED
[ And that was after a 2+ hour drive, the beginning of which we got lost.
Who knew that a back road named "Comfort" could be so deceiving ? ]

Here are some pics from yesterday,
most of which were taken by MJ:

 JOHN and JIMMY




 KATE and JOHN




 JIM and his youngest ... JIMMY




 RILEY
Hope springs eternal !





 JIMMY and STEPHANIE




 KATE
The Hostess with the Mostest!




 The Ever Patient 
MISS  GRACE





 Little Miss Grace
Still patiently waiting!




 JOHN and KATE




O MY GOODNESS
WAS THIS EVER SOME GOOD EATIN'




This pic taken by
Kate Feldbauer Handy
! CHEERS !

and
THANKS
Kate and John
FOR THIS WONDERFUL MOMENT IN TIME!


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This is all for now folks.
PERHAPS
another post later today.

Right now it's


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KEEP  A  SONG
IN
YOUR  HEART!


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Thursday, November 26, 2015




GOOD  MORNING FRIENDS!
and
HAPPY THANKSGIVING DAY 2015


THANKS
to all who read yesterday's blog post
and
especially to those who commented:

DAVID  MAYO

LYNNE  FAECKE

MEREDITH  CHILSON

MARY  FULLER

DONNA  HOLMES

LYNN  MANNING

LORIE WAITE FELDBAUER

MARK JOSEPH FELDBAUER

LAURIE ZEEMA MEAD

DOTTIE  GRAHAM

MARCINE  DELO

JANET  NORRIS

BARB  STANTON McNINCH

DIANNE  COMISKEY

KATHY FRUNGILLO HAMLIN

LISA DIANE JESKE

MARY KAY [Goomba] PRESUTTI

SUE ELLEN TRONETTI ROSS

DEBBIE  PRESUTTI

Thank You,
truly, truly
THANK YOU
for joining us
on this journey.
It is so much easier with you
than feeling so alone.
You'll never know just how much we love you.




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And soon we are off to Ithaca, NY to
sister Kate's
for
THANKSGIVING.

Here's one of the songs we will be singing whilst traveling,
just change the words "Grandmother's house"
TO
" sister Kate's house "
and
you'll have it.



A BLESSED THANKSGIVING 
TO YOU and YOURS!


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Wednesday, November 25, 2015

WEEK

[ Listening to "Gary Lewis and the Playboys", circa 1966, via YouTube.com ]
( Always reminds me of Donna Dawson {DiGirolamo} ... so we're smiling! )

GOOD  MORNING  FRIENDS!

and
THANKS
to all who commented on yesterday's
KASIYH
blog post:

LORIE WAITE FELDBAUER

DONNA HOLMES

MARY  FULLER*

MARY ELLEN MURRAY MANNING

MICHELLE LIBERTONE

ROBIN DEAN SMITH*

JANET  NORRIS

STEVEN  HARRIS

BARB STANTON McNINCH

CHERYL  STANTON

LYNNE  FAECKE

MARCINE  DELO

* Mary Fuller and Robin Dean took the time to reply using the comments section on this blog.

Replying on FB or on KASIYH blog, either one is fine by us.
Some folks simply find using FB to be quicker/easier.
Some have brought to our attention that they find it difficult if not impossible to post their comments
on KASIYH blog.
Sorry about that and also sorry we don't know how to correct that issue.
We can tell you that when we see someone has left a comment actually ON this blog
we smile as that number, more often than not, just sits there for days and months,
never changing.

But of this remain sure,
we
APPRECIATE
each and every comment.
A--L--W--A--Y---S.

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   Have had several questions brought to our attention in the last few days, some from the readers of this blog [privately] and some via E-mail or in person or via cell phone/text.  We are choosing to answer some of those here and now ,,, will save the Gay type questions until towards the end of today's post.  If there's a "cross-over" question/answer we'll let you know.

*  Does writing a blog ever get tiring to you?  Are there days you just don't want to write a blog post?     What do you do on  those type  days?
     ANSWER:  Yes indeed there are days when it's tiring.  When we began KASIYH blog six years ago on November 1, 2009 we were quite devoted to it.  Didn't take long for that to pass.  Then we would feel guilty when too much time passed w/o a post on here.  It wasn't until our dear, dear LYNN MANNING wrote to us [ words to the effect of] : " It's your damned blog, write it when you feel like it and skip it when you don't feel like it.  We'll still be here Greg."   We know, we know, such a simple statement overall BUT it awoke in us a freedom we'd previously been asleep to and Lynn's last few words "We'll still be here Greg" meant the world to GGC.  Thanks our Lynny Pooh! Since that day we've done just that, written certain days and just skipped others.  Much happier.

*   Has your life changed since you began writing this blog?  If so, how?  What have you discovered by writing the blog?
     ANSWER: [Cross-over answer]  Definitely.  Hasn't your life changed in the past six years? One of the first things we discovered when we started KASIYH blog is how many people really, REALLY have truly kind, caring and compassionate hearts.  Just think about what we [MJ and GGC] had gone through in the "early years" and you might  begin  to know why that shocked GGC to their core. And this was before "the revelation" [of October 30th, 2014 blog post] when we felt we had to answer Jimmy Cline's assault to GGC on FB.  That blog post cracked the closet door open a bit [publicly] and your reply's took our breath away,,,in the best way possible. 
   Then our beloved "Red" [Marcine Delo] sent us a wonderful, personalized wall hanging for our anniversary.  It arrived on KASIYH's sixth anniversary and we'd told you that you could ask any question and we would answer it.  Our Dear O' Lynne Faecke asked what was written on the wall hanging that Marcine had sent us.  GGC froze.  To answer, ignore, PM answer or,,,,,,, We decided to write the November 2nd 2015 blog post then if we just couldn't hit the "publish" button we could always delete it.  MJ was off work that week to work on TBP, remember?  Had he not been here, virtually in this room, we might never have written it let alone published it.  Regular KASIYH readers know the struggle it was twixt GGC and MJ on whether or not to publish that post,,,with a photo from 10-16-76 no less..... something that NO ONE save us had ever seen [unless you were actually there at the time].   We. Published. It.      
And



Kindly notice the above picture changing from dark and cloudy to sunny skies.  That's exactly what it's been for MJ and GGC ... and all because of you, you have done that.  YOU!  Can you see [it's obvious to us ] that each piece had to fall into place in order for this story to unfold as it did and continues onward and upward ?  Do we owe [even] Jimmy Cline a big HUG?  [ Stop!  Stop LOL right now! ]  At any rate, we can never say



enough,
so we'll just 
KEEP SAYING IT
TIME and TIME and TIME
again
until
MJ and GGC
feel like you
KNOW
how much gratitude is
YOURS.
Because of
YOU
we can finally feel free to be 
US.


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AND
since it's
WEDNESDAY
let's go for another edition of

   
   One of things that made it so challenging for MJ and GGC to come to terms with what was happening twixt them, was not only the non-acceptance of society, but the fact both were raised with very, very strict religious backgrounds.  One Roman Catholic and one Baptist.  Even after we'd known one another not just as friends, we spent what seemed liked eons trying to reconcile those times with what we'd been raised to believe was a destiny with hell itself.  First one of us would be "okay" with it,,,,then by the time the other one had come to terms with it, the original one would back away,,, it was quite simply ,,, dreadful.   Is it any wonder that at the time we tried use alcohol as a buffer for whenever we were headed in "that" direction?   Even after GGC converted to Roman Catholicism [ not for MJ as some thought, but for other reasons entirely.  And you talk about devout? Nothing quite like a convert, especially in this case.]  Add to that the fact that on the Kinsey Scale one of us is a 3 or 4 and the other one is more akin to a 6 ... well you get the picture.  Even though we were years away from even broaching the word "love", you do love the one you love, whether society [or even us at the time ] likes it or not.  So here we were, trying to fight with everything we had the sexual part of the relationship but not wanting to let go of our friendship. [We DID end it ALL for a few months ,,, this eventually opened the door to GGC becoming Roman Catholic BTW ... another story.]  During these years of our battling with sexuality that was [quickly but not quickly turning into that which neither one of would mention,,,the L word] we dated females. Here is a picture from one of those times.  We were both taking gals to the BCS Junior Prom after we we had graduated ... double date and we could still be together w/o being "two-gether" so-to-speak. [ Below pic circa Spring 1973 ]



Believing as we do that everything happens for a reason, it would seem we must have needed these years in order to become US, but man was it difficult.  Even after we were living together [beginning in November of 1974, Olean, NY, and never separately thereafter ] we still couldn't come to grips with what was happening between us.  Another pic,,,this one circa Autumn 1974 in Olean apartment:


Perhaps because of the turmoil we went through between ourselves [which was vast and lengthy] we are sensitive [sometimes overtly so] when well-meaning [for the most case] friends say to us: "Oh, we knew all about you guys back in high school" [ as one insipid Gay male from BCS (younger than us)  wrote to GGC a year or so ago ... since deleted as a "friend"].  How could they [in this case he ... W.R.] know all about us when we  didn't "know" ,,, and nothing sexual had happened at that point?   Yes, we admit that sometimes others can "see" what's happening when those involved are "blind" to it themselves, BUT it truly drives US over-the-edge when people tell us they knew ALL about us when they in fact had no  #@$^*%&(&(  idea what the heck was going on.  [ Note:  This does not apply to Mrs. C. when she said she had kind of figured out what might be going on with MJ and GGC back when we used to go camping on "Comiskey Hill" ...... by then something was indeed going on.  And Dianne Comiskey would be the last person on earth to ever, ever say she knew it "all".  Love you D.C.]  

So exactly when did we become "more than just friends" ?  When, where and how did that event unfold ?  Who spent a wild week-end with _____________  at __________ and wondered for quite some time thereafter if she had gotten pregnant by him?  After MJ and GGC were [non-legally] married, were they always faithful to one another or were there "slip-ups" [hiccups?] along the way?   Do MJ and GGC ever plan to "make it legal" and if so, when ?  The answers to these and other questions WILL be answered,,,someday,,,perhaps in e-book form.  [ This is what we mean when we say "We're either gonna tell it all OR not at all"  regarding the possibility of a book being written.]

The struggle between MJ and GGC seemed, at the time, endless.  Obviously since you are reading this some 41-42 years after the above pics, the struggle did end ,,, between US,,,but then entirely new struggles would begin.  



THIS
should be enough fodder for today's discussion on FB.








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Good day friends.  Quickie health update:  Things proceeding better than expected, meaning wound is healing much quicker than we'd thou...