by the fireplace this morning, mourning
[ Just kidding ]
the passing of
[ for now ]
We learned something yesterday that shocked us:
Later in the day Gregory wrote a post about
and his evil influence.
When it was posted,
no notification on FB
[ ever so briefly ]
we discovered that if one clicked on the link
we'd provided earlier in the day on FB
[ with only MJ tagged for that particular post ]
it takes one to the
We immediately removed that Blog post.
We were in a very dark spot.
Simply wanted to write our feelings out
and if anyone saw it,
[ but most don't under those circumstances BTW ]
We didn't want it
by any means.
It mystifies us that
most str8 people
[ or so it seems ]
than we do.
We're hearing it everywhere?
" Do you know 'so and so' ? Well he's / she's gay."
[BTW... we don't get a "members list" auto delivered to our mailbox.]
The last place we heard this type of statement was at the groomers.
" I can't begin to tell you how many of my clients are gay!"
MJ and GGC
remained rather absent from the Allegany County Gay scene,
[ for many reasons, one being self preservation ,,, earlier on ]
you'd think we'd be more informed of the Gay folks
in and around
than our str8 friends.
As we've mentioned previously on this Blog,
back in the mid-1970's
there was a
Gay bar in Olean, NY
" The Stadium "
[ if memory serves = that was the name ]
It was very dark and rather covert
so as not to attract attention.
[ Still had rocks thrown through windows, spray painting, etc. ]
But at least there was some place
for us to go and not feel like a
"pork chop at a Jewish wedding".
If such a place of safety
exists now locally,
we know not of it.
Our trip to Arizona last month
opened up a Gay vista
we had never experienced.
At least the areas we were in
the folks we were around,
was never an issue.
Recall the story of the gal with us on the elevator?
In just a short ride up 2 floors
[ and them chat in the area off the elevator ]
we discussed the fact that she and her partner
had recently been married
we told her we'd been together 40 years.
It was the most natural conversation in the world.
That's just one example out of many.
[ Not to mention Casey and Brandon's BEAUTIFUL wedding!]
We know that not all areas of our country are so open
to all live styles
our beloved Allegany County is rather conservative
[ to put it mildly ]
but it sure seems out of sync that many of the local
"Brotherhood and Sisterhood"
seem to not associate with one another to any degree.
Did you notice the title of this section
of today's Blog post?
Perhaps we need some sort of
Allegany County Gay Alliance.
Oh calm down Nelly!
We wouldn't need to broadcast it
start planning the annual
perhaps some sort of organized way
to get to know one another.
It so easy to feel polarized
out here in the boondocks.
This idea did not come to us overnight.
It's been on our mind for quite some time,
the Arizona trip simply reinforced the idea.
Side note: It has always amazed MJ and GGC that most local Gay folks seem to all know us , , , but we don't know hardly any of them. When we ask them how they know us, it's usually the same answer = "You blazed the way for us" or "Our parents used to talk about you two...." (this could be pro OR con BTW). Interesting that we never thought of ourselves as "trail blazers" in any way, shape, form or manner. We were simply in love with one another.
At any rate
this idea of
"Getting To Know You"
[ always a song from a musical! ]
is not leaving our mind.
We will, as always,
keep you abreast.
What thinkest thou?
simply dreaming what could be a nightmare?